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Processing Grief

Updated: Nov 15, 2022

Processing Grief - Peace Lilly

I know many of you have sadly lost loved ones this year and the subject of grief has come up so often. This I know is a sign for me to reflect on it.

Through my work and my own experience, I've seen the many different ways that people deal with grief.

For example, When we lose our elderly parents, we sometimes have to push that grief deep down inside so we can 'be strong' to handle the responsibilities of funeral arrangements and finances.

Sometimes the loss can occur at a much younger age, an age where a child can't quite understand the permanence of what's happened and the shock may even leave them void of emotion at the time, as they helplessly observe the adults around them doing what needs to be done.

In either case, the feeling of sadness is left unresolved and so seeps deeper into our psyche, eventually affecting our mental well-being.

In some cultures, much more time is taken to process grief after the passing of another. The funeral may last for several days or there may be several key dates soon after a passing where the person is held in reverence as part of a gathering of family and friends or a religious ceremony.

It's only in western cultures that we are forced to rush the process and have everything done in one day so we can return to normal (work) as quickly as possible, almost as if it never happened.

Rushing in this way means that those left behind may not experience the cathartic healing that can come from a shared or sole outpouring of grief in a safe environment.

Lessening The Pain

Expressing Grief - Lit TeaLight

Taking time to connect with the sadness within, the missing and the memories are crucial aspects of being able to come to terms with the loss of that person. Grieving is a journey that shouldn't be suppressed at the time of the event. When we fully release the tears and the pain as we feel them, the next time we cry, it's always a little less painful.

If you're grieving the loss of a loved one right now, try to have compassion for yourself. Be somewhere where you can fully, feel the emotions and release them. It's highly likely that you may always feel a little sadness when you think of them so be easy with yourself. The aim isn't to feel nothing at all.

In time, you will be able to remember them in a softer, more heart-warming way, that makes you smile as you connect to their memory.

I have found that this is also when they'll be able to connect to you, reassure you or even guide you as you become a vibrational match to where they now reside. 🙏🏽💖

Abraham Hicks - Losing A Loved One

This law of attraction video may also help to soothe you. Click on the image or the link below to watch.

Losing A Loved One


Gwen x


Gwen Allison

Is a Transformation Coach, Spiritual Business Coach, Accredited Meditation Teacher and Reiki Master/Teacher with a desire to open your mind to new possibilities, whilst gently guiding you towards your goals and personal transformations.

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